frenemy! ... an actual term now!?

I dont know how to hold a grudge.
Its kind of a stupid quality. gracious and forgiving perhaps but stupid.
I think its because of the perpetual short/long term memory loss that I seem to have suffered from almost all my life. People do things, the things hurt me and few months/weeks later I forget those very things. Now no matter how cruely it had hurt at the time, I forget. And even when reminded, I am somehow unable to conjure up those feelings of hurt anymore. And so I dont know how to hold a grudge. Not even close. It a real problem I tell you!

So Ive sort of figured a way around it. I few years ago when I realized that life aint easy and all friends aint for life, I made up a few rules (call it self preservation) for myself:

a) I'll be your loyal loving yet scarcastic friend as long as you make a concious effort to be mine as well. If the interest is not mutual then its not, no hard feelings.
b) If you fuck me over/hurt me/hurt a close friend of mine, I wont hold a grudge but I will push you a few notches down to the friend-aquaintance shelf from where your words/actions just wont matter all that much anymore.

Not to say that the rules are fool proof... but they do keep me semi-safe at least.
However there are ofcourse those friends that just refuse to get pushed to the lower shelves... they are the old ones, the ones you knew when you had two toned arms (from the scorching sun in the campus with no trees), when you hadnt figured out straightners, or threading, the ones so close to my heart that no matter what they do, I still and will inherently care for them, and no matter how hurt, I will continue to look out for them. Not that I'm the perfect friend who will bicha-ofy herself ... far from it...
But its just that people bitch abt how hard relationships are and God help us they are ... but its your friends who really mold your life pre/during and post those crazy relationships that our lives focus on so.... so.

Sigh
Life, .... it really ought to be easier. :P